I felt rushed to eat my dinner. Shes hard working, handles the house, the kids, the works. I knew this dog was hurting. Teach it right and it will learn respect and maybe he wont be jealous anymore if he is then leAve him. Only a month would be sufficient. We got a dog 17 years ago because my wife and two kids wanted one. When I brought this up to my boyfriend, he said Who cares? Monogamy is not a human concept rather a social one we have grown accustomed to. The thought of it was hurting our relationship until it ultimately ended. Thank you. When the relationship starts to go downhill, they cling to the dog more almost in a weird attempt at inducing jealousy. Developing a loving and lasting relationship is going to take much effort for both individuals. I volunteer at a rescue feeding orphaned baby pups and kittens. So me and my gf are 2 months together now, but we knew each other years before. It all bothers me very much. Because when he finally gets in bed with me..I get good night I love you and not even cuddle me for 2 minutes and roll over and sleep. I went through a very lonely period in my life after a break up from my then fiance and I got Nappy, a male shitzu, to help with my loneliness. Get rid of the dog for pete sakes! Shes actually part min pin and part Doxie. The whole time They were at that shelter I had zero peace of mind. The man obviously has a very dysfunctional relationship with his dog. I could no longer stand the way my husband brought down her spirit. Like at dinner we have had so many arguments because he wants me to make the dog a plate, at his parents house the dog eats first, literally,,, then people can eat. The reality is MUCH different! It is not her fault she smells terrible and sheds like a beast but this will go on for her entire life of course. i know it wont be easy since you two have a kid on the way, but the safety of your children, not to mention your sanity and peace of mind, are way more important. Im really thinking I need to end this relationship because we argue about Beau all the time. He grew up in a family where the dog stays outside. I dont want to ruin our relationship over this. Discuss with the husband/boyfriend: He is your love. Her bulldog was 7 years old and they live 8-12 years and the other one was 5. Especially my husband, he is notorious for leaving clothes thrown on floor, leaving tools out over the place, NO NO NO no more PETS! I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. They wish to treat them as children/humans yet the animal truly does not want this instinctively. My boyfriend felt that he couldnt give her to family friends bc he felt like it would be hard for the dog to switch families and he felt guilty. i cannot stand this animal. WOW!!!!! It shows empathy. And he would tell me from the couch to come give him one. I dont get to sleep with my boyfriend and I rarely get to cuddle him or get any love or attention from him because all he ever does is cuddle or hug or kisses the dog. I know he would probably have a fit. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. I dont wish that type of experience on anyone. We have a Great Dane 2 year old with no issues. Id put her ass outside in a heated doghouse. He thinks dogs belong outside. Thank you for your comment, Kat. Talking, begging, thumping tails, jumping around in excitement). Having an animal demanding my attention like that and jumping on me, clawing at me, nosing my hands, whining, barking it just sets my teeth on edge. There are PLENTY out there who would appreciate your dream and realize how AWESOME you are. The thing is we were supposed to be moving in together when he took her on. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. They have control and anger issues. They would be flattened like a Roadrunner cartoon by these two beasts. Ive put tarp down in the room as he previously went poop on the floor there. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. When I am at his house the dog cant let us cuddle in front of TV before interacting with aggressiveness act , he is either wants to sit in the same sofa and not a separate sofa. Your householders have allergies to dogs. NPD is characterized by an individual having an inflated sense of self-importance, lack of empathy for others, and a deep need for excessive attention and/or admiration. Something a lot of people still believe to this day. And not having enough time is a rubbish excuse. I dont want this puppy to be a toy and go from home to home but no one seems my point. I can understand that, but Im having a hard time accepting it. If you put the dog in his kennel to run up to the store even for a few seconds you have to turn the kennel towards the wall and push the couch behind it otherwise he escapes and destroys the house. Basically, a life with this man and his dogs will mean not having my own needs met, and being second-place beneath the dogs. I dont even like touching dogs. He moved to a condo and let me stay in the house. If your partner is annoyed by a specific behavior such as excessive scratching, its time to call an expert. Its a change for both of us. Wow, it is so comforting to know that I am not alone after reading everyones posts. Not w he is talking about getting a fucking wheelchair for her when her hips give out. The moment I say something about the behaviors, my wife instantly defends the dog and states that its my fault this dog is like this. I hurt inside feeling the way I do about this dog, and whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend about how I feel he just says its stupid your jealous of a dog, its just dumb. Hes quit jobs because he couldnt have the dog with him. Im getting ready to go back to work and I dread what I will come home to. So jump to end of the day I just got home from work and the dog is still there. Im hoping for some tips to get them to bond. Allowing your dog to do human things is failing that animal in my opinion. Well, its been a few weeks now and his ass hasnt calmed down. You cant change it. They did not ask for a dog only compensate because they love you and you have one. But they have their place. I cant lead myself to believe that most women would rather be alone with a dog than have a significant other in their life. Why am I still around? No significant other should ever feel less worthy than a pet animal in my book. I am so bothered by the mess this dog has caused and it makes me feel like well never have a nice clean home! She was well trained, stayed home with family when we traveled. Each one was given boundaries and structure, taught manners in living with their humans, loved and spoiled with a lot of treats and toys. I know this is going to be a daily struggle between us if they would live with us. Hes also not allowed to beg for our food, and we dont feel the need to drag him everywhere we go. What should I do if my boyfriend is mean to my dog? Lets not forget the constant pictures of the dog taken with her phonesmh, I dont think its cool that she disregarded your feelings about dog on bed after you told her how you felt. I can understand where you are coming from totally. He wants to get rid of the dog, but I know that this poor pup just needs some consistency, time, and a shot at unconditional love. As far as Im concerned, people who issue unreasonable relationship ultimatums have just committed a relationship deal breaker. Its important to note these behaviors long predate our relationship: her parents make it clear she has always had issues with valuing her relationship with dogs above people (she does not like cats, or other animals just dogs). While her parents dont mind watching her dog, especially since he keeps their dog company, they dont like having him for long periods of time because hes just as needy as their dog. Yes animals can feel! Especially when cats do their own thing and its not like theyre around bugging you all day like the needy dog. Hed have his arm around her. The dog has not done anything wrong. We have a 4 month old son and my three year old from a previous relationship. But since we brought her home, I have had doubts and regretted it. WE are all including animals, dogs creatures. Ive been understanding of this bc his mother had just passed. Fortunately for her she sees the warning flags going up big time and When I came home from the grocery store, he would already be stealing food from the grocery bags or things out of my purse! If he continues to be a rude about the fur, you are incompatible. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. And beau can sense it. BUT now I should now have a conversation about whether a dog is allowed to sleep in the bed or not before I should consider taking a relationship with this person? Thats over the line.but he refuses to act on it . She follows everyone around wanting attention and could use better training. My pets were part of the family. The dog drives me crazy. Im sure this isnt the answer you want to hear but its the answer you already know: its time to move on. It was one of those things where, what could go wrong goes out the window. its her baby and thats how theyve always been. So when he tells my dog to do something he freezes like he is in trouble and this frustrates my husband as well. Something I think my partner can use wisely but chooses not to because he thinks him or the dog should t have to. Oh please Im just stressed that this is going to be the same thing! Absolutely not. This is, if she had the ONE dog and didnt have it take precedence over her relationship and obsess about it then it wouldnt really be an issue but I ended up disliking the dog(s) because of her attitude with them. He doesnt keep you awake, ignore your commands, scratch incessantly at every closed door, refuse to come when hes called or BITE you. Oh? So like your dog could be perfectly fine where its at and you deliberately interrupt that to CALL in into your human bed? They are addicted to me. So thats another issue. I cant take it anymore. It actually is 11 years old but has the energy of a 3 year old. Now, we are back to this point where I have been bit by this dog now twice, she doesnt listen to me what so ever, refuses to eat unless its my wife who feeds her and Im nowhere around, is right there by my wifes side no matter what if shes not outside on her chain. In Mistys case it is pretty obvious that the man has a codependent relationship with his dog; he has made it clear to her that the animal is his priority and he is unwilling to change for the sake of developing a relationship with her. Our selfishness fuels our survival and only some are born with a goodness that not all people have. Here, I would set her up, with all sorts of examples and bingo, it works, but while training this, I dont harp on the other stuff, just a little reminder. My last cat was a Pixie Bob, 8 years old when he died from a Pitbull getting loose and using him as a toy. (Not as in physically harming, I dont hit people, but as in literally just touching). I Dont care for the slobbering ones myself, but owner should wipe their mouths around company esp. Sorry you are having these struggles too. Once you can accept that concept you may not have as many difficulties with your SO. He was even having me pay $1000 month to pay for my health insurance through his employer group coverage his was free. By commenting you acknowledge acceptance of GoodTherapy.org'sTerms and Conditions of Use. She tried to intervene but it wouldnt stop, biting me a few times. She would take that as how much people LOVE bulldogs but realistically, she dressed them up in clothes as we walked! The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. This is the 5th time its happened and I dont want to live with this dog anymore. Each has a place for love in your life one animal one human..HELLO! We are expecting twins in January and the animals are not trained around small children and in fact have had incidences with smaller or other animals that resulted in aggression (the adult dog killed the kittens left unattended at their previous residence). If he keeps jumping up maybe try a kennel at first. She is your typical this is my fur child its like taking care of a baby. There are odd threats, like turning the Guinea pigs loose in the bush or out in the snow {they would be dead} or letting the dogs play with them {again dead}, turning the hamster loose or giving him to the dogs, and shooting my dog. 1. He got the dog when he was single and lonely, and it filled the place of a girlfriend. 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